By Nicole Levison

I believe that stress is the root of many illnesses. I also think that massage therapy should not be considered a special treat, but preventative health care. Moreover, I subscribe to the ideas of taking micro breaks (one minute of stretching in an hour really does do the body good and prevents repetitive injury) and routinely making dates with myself (whether to indulge in some sort of artistic project or to do something as simple as paint my nails).

My mantra: if I do not take care of me, no one else will.

Sure, there is a raging industry complete with books, workshops, and pointers out there to assist in raising our efficiency quota, but the reality is if you are coping with a lack of time, there is a good chance you will find it tough to read or attend a seminar.

It is also a documented fact that caregivers deal with more illness and depression than their non-caregiving peers because of the tolls of their responsibilities. So, here is a short list of possible ways to deal with your demanding role while still taking care of you:

• Take breaks. Half the battle is being aware of your own needs. Whether you pamper yourself by doing yoga or treat yourself to a long afternoon away, find a way to walk away temporarily. Respite is something most caregivers can’t seem to get enough of.
• Organize to make your life simpler. Whether it’s organizing medications ahead of time for the week, posting all pertinent numbers and medical information in a high-profile location, tackling just one annoying chore each weekend—once you get it all under control, it is easier to maintain. Also, keeping a calendar can really assist in prioritizing a range of tasks and allow you to track progress.
• Consider multitasking (when it can be done safely). For example, if there is a friend you have wanted to connect with, invite him/her over to share in meal time. Inevitably, everyone, including the person you take care of, will go away in better spirits. One of my favorite ways to be efficient: I write letters while watching television (which also quashes some of the guilt of spending time relaxing in front of the boob tube).
• Take every opportunity to laugh. Happier people are healthier people. You will find a good attitude rubs off (just as a negative one does).
• Do not be afraid to communicate—whether it is to ask for help or say NO. Okay, so you have heard this a bunch of times, but it is so true! You will be surprised who will willingly offer a hand and, conversely, how accepting friends and family will be when you set limits. Many caregivers often postpone taking care of their own health or overlook their own needs and this may be detrimental in the long run. Be willing to talk to a health-care professional and take advantage of community services.
• Get physical exercise. The health benefits are obvious: improved sleep, tension and depression reduction, increased energy, and, of course, a better physique. Start out with (and stick to) small goals, for instance, walking around the block every other day. Make excuses to exercise (like taking the stairs instead of an elevator)!
• Strive to get enough sleep, food, and love. Maybe you are familiar with the acronym “HALT”? It stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired and is commonly referred to as a list of the main reasons people overindulge or melt- down. Add “worry” to the factors that can adversely affect you. A good night of rest, a good nutritious meal, and an evening with friends may help you cope with family caregiving! Never underestimate the power of sleep, love, food, and love.

Obviously this list is by no means exhaustive. It is only meant to provide perspective on what can be the most rewarding, and, at the same time, intensely demanding undertaking you will ever embark on. No matter what your situation, just know that there will never be enough time in the day to do it all, so do what you can each day.